Most couples spend at least 250 hours  planning their wedding.  Yet less than 5% of all couples seek any form of professional pre-marriage support and guidance. Spending 12-16 hours in preparatory work could set you up for a lifetime of lasting love.  From Steven's experience there are about 30 common issues that divorcing couples present with.  Most couples are only struggling with 7 or 8 of these issues having successfully resolved the other issues.  However half of the issues are easily solved with some practical input which is where friends, families and other support programmes are excellent.  The advantage of a comprehensive premarital programme is that it is possible to identify early what the existing and likely challenges will be and provide strategies for negotiating them.  Building love requires intentional effort.  In the early stages of the relationship couples are literally high in a love induced haze and tend not to notice the effort they are exerting to build their love.  However your body cannot sustain this forever and when the hormones wear off then the real work of love begins.  If this is done well then the relationship will continue to deliver the benefits of passion, intimacy and commitment.  If the work is not done then couples tend to get into a power struggle where they try and make the other person give them what they want and need - this creates a vicious cycle that destroys love.

Pre-marital coaching is a lot of fun and like building a house with a builder it provides useful tips that will stop you making common and incredibly costly mistakes.  The alternative option of DIY'ing your relationship is certainly possible but tends to be more difficult and frustrating.

The Love Builder Pre-Marriage programme includes the following:

• Basic gender differences (men and women are profoundly different in design and socialisation)
• Personality Styles (All couples need to know their key areas of difference so they can learn to appreciate and work with their partners differences)
• Love and Apology Languages (these save you years of wasted argument by teaching you how to effectively communicate love to your partner)
• Keys to fantastic Sex (explaining the difference between ejaculatory and orgasmic sex for guys - most men only ever experience ejaculatory sex)
• A structured communication and conflict management  strategy
• A marriage development plan ( this looks at the common stages and developmental challenges in marriages)
• Danger alerts - discover the 4 predictors of divorce and how to stop them becoming entrenched
• and much more, the coaching is personalised for each individual couple.